Body Confidence, Real Love: A Couple Proves Mixed-Weight Relationships Work
Brittany Montgomery, 24, a care worker from Ontario, Canada, says she struggled with confidence for years after past partners pressured her to lose weight. At the time, she was size 22 and weighed 257lb.
After deciding she was done with dating, Brittany met Matt Montgomery, 23, a personal trainer, through Facebook. Their connection was immediate—and it changed both of their lives.
How They Met and What Made the Relationship Different
Brittany said the biggest difference with Matt was feeling accepted from the start:
- She had been told in previous relationships that she would be dumped if she didn’t diet or slim down.
- Those experiences damaged her self-confidence and pushed her to try changing her body for others.
- She later realized she didn’t want to change herself to match someone else’s idea of beauty.
- Meeting Matt helped her feel loved for who she is, without conditions.
Matt’s Perspective: Confidence Was the Attraction
Matt, who weighs 140lb, said Brittany’s body-positive confidence stood out immediately. He explained that some of his past relationships with slimmer women struggled because they felt insecure about their bodies.
Matt emphasized:
- He would never ask Brittany to change her body.
- He wanted her to eat what she wants and be happy, without pressure or calorie tracking.
Marriage, Family, and a New Baby Boy
The couple’s relationship moved quickly:
- They hit it off on their first date.
- They later married midway through 2021.
- They recently expanded their family with the birth of their baby boy, born in March.
On their shared Instagram account @themontgomeryss, they posted updates after the birth, including:
- A photo carousel captioned “Purest of love” announcing their newborn.
- Images showing the baby sleeping on a grey knitted blanket, wearing a matching grey beanie with ears.
- A close-up photo of the baby’s face.
- Videos showing parts of the birth process and Matt’s reaction to meeting his son.
In May, they also shared a porch photo captioned “Just like our first date but post baby.”
Facing Online Criticism and Public Stares
Despite the joy, the couple says they still face negativity—mostly online:
- Matt said people sometimes stare when they walk down the street.
- Online trolls have commented that he is “not big enough” or “not man enough” for Brittany.
Their Message: Normalize Mixed-Weight Relationships
Brittany and Matt say they want to see more mixed-weight relationships represented and accepted. They reject the claim that couples with different body sizes can’t build a strong life together.
Brittany added that there’s a harmful misconception that a larger person and a smaller person can’t be intimate or start a family—something they say has never been a problem for them.
